Bliss is defined as perfect happiness; great joy. reaching a state of perfect happiness, typically so as to be oblivious of everything else.
That is the initial state of marriage. It begins in courtship and continues and leads a man and a woman to believe that they must forever be with this person. There is passion, love, romantic blindness, and the sense that life would be hopeless without that one.
The drudgery of life’s challenges work against that.
It is not always easy to maintain the euphoria of initial romance. Some would argue it is impossible. It has to do with chemistry. While the heightened level of that feeling may wane with the passing of time, in its place or growing from that there should be a continuous sense of a feeling of wellbeing, affection, and yes, love for the one you married.
Marital bliss can be recaptured at different times by different methods. Time alone with your loved one without the kids, the phone, or the computer is one way to focus back on each other and rekindle the romantic flame. Without the props this alone time may seem a little awkward at first but it can be worked into a very exciting day or two.
A nice hotel and fancy fixin’s (food that is) would enhance the occasion.
In the usual day to day existence some other exercises will help to keep your marriage enjoyable.
Marital Kiss
One practice that should never expire is the marital kiss. Before we moved recently, we had a reminder above our bed that said, “Always kiss me goodnight!” That is one way to insure a peaceful ending to a day and maybe, a passionate one.
Kissing should be repeated often. Leaving the house? Kiss. Returning home? Kiss. Lip contact with the one you love is comforting and reassuring. If you can kiss, more than likely all is well.
Kissing will engage other activities that will result in better feelings.
In the face to face closeness there is affection. The touching in the approach is therapeutic. When accompanied by a hug, healing will flow. Remember bliss? One good huggy kiss can produce such a momentary sense of wellbeing that you may want to revisit later on. Just saying.
Listen, Keep the fire burning. It can be a lot of fun. And we all need some fun.
I like the song by Paul Young that says, Every time you go away you take a piece of me with you. While the song speaks of a man’s perpetual discontent with his part time lover’s lack of a constant presence in his life, I use the words in a positive connotation.
Marital Miss
Often, when my wife leaves the house I repeat the words. Every time you go away you take a piece of me with you. I speak of the marital miss. We should enjoy each other’s presence and company and when apart there should be a feeling that something is missing. Happy to see them go or get away is not the road to happiness. Whenever my wife or I leave the house, our daughter Emily says, Love you, miss you. We say it now too. A beautiful feeling to have toward your bed mate.
I have run out of space but I have one thing to add. One thing that should NOT be part of the conjugal experience.
Marital Diss
Diss is part of the newer vocabulary. It means to speak disrespectfully to, or criticize; disrespectful talk. The practitioner of the diss is on the way to a not so happy ending. Speak love. When you fail at that return to it as quickly as possible. Practice the soft answer response. It can become a habit that will contribute to your marital bliss.
Be happily married! -PJF-
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